We Lead With Our Weakness

We Lead With Our Weakness: Finding Freedom in Vulnerability

In the SA 12-Step program, there’s a powerful concept about leading with our weakness in a group setting. As their literature beautifully puts it:

“We lead with our weakness because that’s where we’re hurting, and this becomes the point of our identification with each other, the point of true union.”

When I first began my recovery journey and attended 12-Step meetings, this idea was both shocking and refreshing. I remember sitting there, listening to people openly share their deepest, darkest secrets – something I’d spent years hiding out of shame.

For so long, I had worked tirelessly to keep parts of my life locked away, as if concealing them would make the pain disappear. And yet, here were people – all complete strangers to me – talking openly about struggles that mirrored my own. The noon sunlight streaming into the room felt symbolic, as if the very act of bringing these secrets into the open was a kind of healing in itself.

Leading With Weakness: A Core of Our Podcast Mission

Our podcast is built on this principle: leading with weakness. It’s about sharing the raw, unvarnished truth – what might feel ugly or shameful – right at the outset. And then we explore the journey from that brokenness to the beauty and redemption waiting on the other side.

For me, that journey wasn’t something I could take alone. Christ became my guide, revealing the beauty that God had always placed within me. When I finally surrendered to His goodness and love, I could begin to let go of the shame that had chained me for so long. I came to trust that I am good – not because of anything I’ve done – but because He is Good.

Sharing: Finding the Right Balance

Of course, sharing isn’t something we do recklessly. It’s taken time for me to discern where and with whom to share my story. I’ve learned to tailor my vulnerability based on the comfort levels and readiness of those around me.

But here’s the thing: when I first shared my full story – right here, for the podcast, for the world to hear – it was an incredible moment of release. After I closed down the Zoom recording, I realized the weight I’d been carrying wasn’t mine anymore. I had handed it over to Christ and in front of anyone in the world who was willing to hear.

The shackles of shame that had bound me for so long were broken. I was free.

A Call to Bring Your Darkness Into the Light

If you’re still holding on to deep, dark secrets, I want to encourage you with something I’ve learned: secrets left in the dark don’t just stay the same – they grow, like mold. But when you expose them to light, they begin to shrink and lose their power over you.

This Holiday season, consider giving yourself a gift that can truly change your life. Reach out to an experienced therapist, a trusted member of your church, or a recovery group. Start speaking your truth in safe spaces. Let the light in and allow the healing to begin.

You’re not alone. Freedom is waiting. And when you lead with your weakness, you may find that it’s the very place where grace and healing take root.

By Pete, Writing Team