EP 211: Part II - Unafraid of Coming Unto Christ for Healing

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In part two of the Unashamed, Unafraid series, the hosts discuss becoming unafraid to come unto Christ for healing in sexual addiction recovery by first learning who God truly is. He is kind, loving, forgiving, and relentless rather than judgmental. They explore how shame, secrecy, and “shame goggles” distort church, relationships, and one’s view of God, creating fear that keeps people from seeking healing. Chris shares a financial secrecy that nearly ended his marriage and how turning to God helped him accept support and accountability. Sam admits coasting in “manageable” relapse and delaying deeper healing. James identifies fear of God’s hard answers and commits to daily stillness, honesty, and obedience as a path to identity change and lasting recovery.

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome Back and Series Setup
02:08 Who God Really Is
03:41 Shame Goggles and Safe Spaces
06:20 Chris Financial Shame Story
10:31 Sam Coasting in Recovery
12:23 Peter in The Chosen Lesson
15:16 James Afraid of the Answer
18:49 Commitments
24:12 Wrap Up and Accountability

EP 210: King's CORE with Ryan Carnahan

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Chris and Sam sit down with Ryan Carnahan from King’s Core to explore the deeper layers of addiction recovery. From relapse and discouragement to identity shifts and emotional resilience, this conversation dives into what actually creates lasting change. Ryan shares his personal 15-year journey through pornography addiction, the turning points that led to healing, and the core framework he now uses to help other men break free. Together, they unpack the difference between surface-level sobriety and true transformation—highlighting the role of identity, community, and mindset in recovery.

EP 209: Part I - Unashamed of Sexual Addiction Recovery

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Sam, Chris, and James discuss what it means to be “unashamed” in sexual addiction recovery. Shame thrives in secrecy, silence, and judgment and that speaking openly breaks isolation. They explore how context and boundaries matter when sharing, distinguishing healthy vulnerability from “vomiting,” and noting that relapse often intensifies shame. Sam shares how he’s become able to admit recent relapse without spiraling, crediting safe community, repeated honest conversations, trauma therapy, and a spiritual experience that helped him accept he is still good even when he relapses. The group encourages listeners to cultivate emotionally safe relationships, face fear within that community, and find a personal “why” for living unashamed.

Timestamps:

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome and Series Setup

01:04 What Unashamed Means

02:33 Shame Thrives in Silence

05:14 Sharing With Boundaries

07:00 Sobriety and Confidence

09:10 Sam Journey to Openness

11:12 God Moment Breakthrough

12:53 How to Get Unashamed

18:14 Cultivating Safe Community

19:27 Find Your Why

22:37 Brotherhood and Acceptance

25:24 Closing and Support the Show

EP 208: Healing The Inner Child with Drew Boa

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In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason welcome Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries, who explains inner child work as understanding sexual temptation and intolerable emotional pain as implicit “body memory” rather than mature adult desire. Drew shares how recognizing his own sexual imprinting and connecting it to childhood trauma replaced self-hatred with self-compassion and inviting Jesus into wounded places. Using the cave rescue documentary as an analogy, he outlines a process of locating, loving, and leading multiple “inner boys,” emphasizing connection over control, co-regulation, curiosity-based questions, and identifying attachment needs beneath cravings, framing porn as a pacifier and a protest while encouraging courageous, hope-filled “redemptive risks.”

Connect with Drew Boa:
https://www.husbandmaterial.com/
https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn

Timestamps:

00:00 Recovery Check In
03:23 Meet Drew Boa
06:01 What Is the Inner Child
09:10 Drew Story And Imprinting
12:33 Rescue The Boy Within
17:20 When Pain Triggers Relapse
21:14 Befriending Questions
23:55 Porn As Pacifier and a Protest
28:25 Face, Feel and Co Regulate
32:49 Hope And Redemptive Risk
34:32 Where To Find Drew
36:37 Wrap Up And Subscribe

EP 207: Live Unashamed - The Power of Story

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In this Live Unashamed episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts discuss the impact of sharing honest, raw stories in sexual addiction recovery and how storytelling combats the shame that fuels isolation and acting out. They explain that people connect through stories, and that naming taboo experiences with courage and vulnerability can break shame and bring healing.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why Story Matters

03:23 Writing Your Story

05:02 Sharing With Sponsor

06:53 Timeline And The Good

10:39 Josh On Sharing

15:28 Chris on Going Public

18:15 Hope And Next Steps

19:44 Send Us Your Story

EP 206: Surrender and Grief With Roxanna Johnson

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In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we return with Roxanna Johnson for a second recording as she explains how spouses are changed by the “dance” of addiction, why both partners have parallel recovery paths, and how hope can emerge over years of work. She teaches surrender as releasing control to God, addressing fear and hypervigilance, and emphasizes grieving, emotional regulation, movement with breath, journaling, and a step-by-step surrender practice, urging those struggling with addiction to “see” and validate their spouse’s pain while seeking the God who knows their name. Roxanna is the author of Forgotten in the Battle with Sexual Addiction, The Journey of a Spouse.

*Check out Roxy's book on Amazon
To connect with Roxy, send her an email: roxyj16@gmail.com or visit her Website, Facebook and Instagram

00:00 Welcome and Check In
04:35 Spouses Need to Heal Too
08:07 The Recovery Dance
13:15 Surrendering Control
17:29 Fear and Trusting God
22:00 How to Support Your Wife
27:26 Grief and Healing
30:57 Six Steps to Surrender
38:14 God Knows Your Name
43:33 Closing and Resources

EP 204: Nathan Maxwell's Story

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Nathan Maxwell returns after a lost recording to share updated perspectives on recovery and marriage. He recounts early exposure to pornography in fourth grade, his parents’ divorce, his half-brother’s suicide, and how shame and suppressed grief fueled compulsive porn use and a growing need for validation from various sexual partners. Nathan describes how religious culture, lack of sex education, and scrupulosity shaped a belief that God hated him, contributing to misery and suicidal ideation. Recovery began when a church member introduced him to Unashamed, Unafraid, 12-step meetings, and boot camp. Nathan now lives with a changed view of God as a loving Father, and ongoing growth through setbacks and sobriety since November 2024.

00:00 Guidebook Update

01:32 Nathan Returns

03:24 Roots of Addiction

17:14 Bootcamp Breakthrough

19:01 Learning Gods Love

26:33 Golden Nuggets of Recovery

EP 202: Troy's Story & Conversations About Sobriety

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This episode dives deep into the raw truth that sobriety is vital, shame is a battle, and authentic recovery requires honesty and courage. Listen as Troy shares his powerful story, struggles, and how God's grace rewrites everything.

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Why sobriety must be at the heart of recovery

02:10 - The destructive power of pornography and shame’s role

03:21 - Personal admission: the struggle of honest recovery

05:19 - Sobriety vs. recovery: understanding the difference

07:58 - Troy’s childhood, exposure, and early struggles with addiction

10:45 - The cycle of addiction and the power of honesty

14:14 - Crowning moment: finally coming clean after years of hiding

16:58 - The courage it takes to attend your first recovery group

18:28 - Defining true sobriety: what it really means to be free

22:35 - The role of shame, pride, and accountability in lasting change

28:30 - How shame can be the enemy of long-term sobriety

33:11 - Different perspectives on God: from Santa to Loving Guide

40:44 - Practical steps: trying differently when stuck in recovery

42:51 - Embracing honesty: the key to living unashamed

EP 203: Live Unashamed- Slowing Down the RPMs

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In this episode of Live Unashamed, the hosts discuss the importance of slowing down in the journey of recovery from sexual addiction. They explore how rushing through recovery can lead to overwhelming feelings and failure, whereas taking time to pause, reflect, and integrate new practices can lead to more sustainable progress. The conversation covers practical strategies such as focusing on one or two recovery tools at a time, practicing mindfulness and stillness, and building self-awareness of emotional states. Tune in to learn how taking it slow can help you achieve lasting recovery.

00:00 Introduction and Warm Welcome
01:35 Today's Topic: Slowing Down in Recovery
02:07 The Importance of Slowing Down
06:31 Practical Steps to Slow Down
07:42 Integrating New Learnings
12:52 The Power of Stillness and Meditation
20:40 Final Thoughts and Viewer Engagement

EP 201: Live Unashamed- Turn the Light Up

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In this episode of Live Unashamed, we discuss a pivotal quote from The Stick of Joseph podcast about resisting temptation not by direct confrontation but by turning towards positive actions and thoughts. Our conversation covers the importance of connection with others, honesty, and creating a lifestyle centered around connection and healing. Listen as we share our experiences and practical advice on turning the light up in recovery.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections
01:52 The Power of Brotherhood in Recovery
02:43 Discussing a Thought-Provoking Quote
04:11 Applying the Quote to Recovery
05:08 Strategies for Managing Temptation
07:47 The Importance of Connection and Honesty
10:34 Building a Lifestyle of Recovery
20:09 Final Thoughts and Viewer Engagement

EP 200: Dr. Trish Leigh

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In this enlightening episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we delve into the challenging yet transformative journey of porn addiction recovery with Dr. Trish Leigh, a cognitive neuroscientist. Dr. Leigh shares her unique approach of using EEG technology to understand and regulate the brain's functioning, helping individuals overcome compulsive sexual behaviors. She discusses the impact of dopamine dependency and the importance of unwiring, rewiring, and hardwiring the brain for long-term recovery. This episode is packed with insights and practical strategies for anyone struggling with or supporting someone through porn addiction recovery.

00:00 Introduction to Unashamed Unafraid
01:16 Meet Dr. Trish Leigh: Cognitive Neuroscientist
02:16 Understanding Porn Addiction and Brain Function
03:09 The Recovery Process: Begin, Continue, and End
04:16 Using EEG Technology in Recovery
08:10 The Impact of Dopamine on Addiction
12:17 Unwiring and Rewiring the Brain
24:20 Strain Brain vs. Drain Brain
26:22 Building a Strong Relationship
26:49 The Impact of Porn on Brain Development
28:16 Understanding Feedback Loops
29:04 Implementing Brain Rewiring Strategies
31:16 The Role of Neuroplasticity
33:37 The Science Behind Brain Changes
35:17 The Importance of Dopamine Regulation
39:21 Using Technology for Brain Health
42:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

EP 199: Live Unashamed- Women in Recovery

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In this episode, we introduce Madi Davis, host of 'Sisters on the Front Lines', who brings a fresh perspective on women's struggles with pornography. Join hosts Sam, James, Chris, and Madi as they discuss the unique challenges women face, the impact of shame, and the importance of connection. Madi shares her personal journey and highlights valuable resources that support women in their recovery. This episode is a must for anyone looking to understand and support women dealing with pornography addiction.

Check out Madi's podcast & connect with her here: https://www.instagram.com/sistersonthefrontlines

00:00 Introduction to Unashamed Unafraid
01:46 Meet Madi Davis: Host of Sisters on the Front Lines
02:45 The Unique Challenges Women Face with Pornography Addiction
04:33 Stories of Struggle and Shame
08:48 Finding Resources and Support
10:58 Messages of Hope and Recovery
18:37 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

EP 198: Un-Alone with Douglas & Madi

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In this special episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we welcome Madi and Douglas, who share their experiences with pornography addiction and recovery. They represent the Un-Alone Club at BYU, a student organization aimed at supporting individuals struggling with pornography and other related issues. Douglas discusses his personal journey with addiction recovery, including how he overcame shame and learned to communicate openly with his wife. Madi shares her efforts in starting a podcast focused on helping young women struggling with pornography. Together, they emphasize the importance of community and connection in overcoming addiction. Tune in to hear their inspiring stories and insights on living unashamed and unafraid.

Follow the Un-Alone Club on Instagram!

00:00 Introduction to Unashamed Unafraid
01:27 Meet Madi and Douglas
01:47 The Un-Alone Club at BYU
02:38 Madi's Podcast Journey
06:41 Douglas' Personal Story
07:51 Douglas' Mission Experiences
08:35 Douglas' Recovery Journey
11:54 Douglas' Relationship and Marriage
17:07 The Un-Alone Club's Activities
21:00 Understanding Ego Dystonic and Pornography
21:27 Empowering vs. Disabling Labels
21:55 Guest Speakers and Diverse Perspectives
23:27 The Importance of Community
24:11 Pornography as a Symptom
24:55 Religious Perspectives on Pornography
29:20 The Power of Connection
29:57 Personal Stories and Experiences
35:45 Starting the Club and Its Impact
39:39 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

EP 197: Live Unashamed- How to Forgive Yourself

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Join the Unashamed Unafraid crew for a Live Unashamed episode where they openly discuss their experiences with sexual addiction, recovery, and the journey to self-forgiveness. Through heartfelt conversations, they explore the immense challenges of forgiving oneself despite being forgiven by others, the power of brotherhood and support, and how spirituality plays a crucial role in healing. Dive deep into personal stories, struggles, and moments of divine revelation that helped shape their paths to redemption. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode is a powerful testament to the transformative power of grace and self-compassion.

00:00 Introduction to Unashamed Unafraid
01:59 The Struggle of Self-Forgiveness
04:22 Brotherhood and Support
08:19 Personal Stories of Recovery
12:23 The Journey of Recovery Timelines
15:50 Spiritual Experiences and Forgiveness
23:15 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

EP 196: Pxrn Coach with Austin Hamilton

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In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, we delve deep into the journey of sexual addiction recovery with professional coach Austin Hamilton. Austin shares his personal story of overcoming pornography addiction and infidelity, emphasizing the importance of truth-telling and courage in the healing process. Highlighting how hidden struggles can impact relationships, Austin outlines his methods for guiding clients through recovery using story work, journaling, and compassionate self-reflection. Join us for an inspiring conversation on embracing vulnerability, understanding the roots of addiction, and fostering authentic connections. Don't miss valuable insights on how to live unashamed and unafraid.


To connect with Austin,
Website: pxrncoach.com

Email: hello@pxrncoach.com

Socials: @PxrnCoach on IG/TikTok/Facebook/YouTube

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Anxiety
02:00 Introducing Austin Hamilton
02:47 Austin's Journey to Recovery
03:44 The Turning Point: D-Day
05:33 The Path to Healing and Courage
09:20 The Importance of Truth in Recovery
11:55 Navigating Post-Disclosure Challenges
13:54 The Role of Intimacy and Communication
21:27 Disclosure as a Lifestyle
23:59 Breaking a Promise on a Special Day
24:36 The Importance of Truth in Relationships
25:18 Diving into the Root of Issues
26:15 Understanding Childhood Influences
27:05 Healing Through Story Work
30:48 Behavior Modification and True Healing
41:26 The Power of Journaling
42:55 Creating a Safe Space for Sharing
45:33 The Role of Compassion in Recovery
48:06 Final Thoughts and Resources

EP 195: Live Unashamed- The Scariest Things About Being Unashamed

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In this episode of Live Unashamed, Sam, James, Joshua, and Chris discuss their daily struggles and steps taken to live unashamedly. From setting boundaries with close friends to grappling with honesty in social situations, the group shares their personal experiences. The conversation explores the hardest aspects of being open about addiction and recovery, the fear of judgment, and the importance of brotherhood. They also emphasize the significance of being transparent with loved ones and the ongoing journey of recovery. The episode ends with a call to action for listeners to share their own fears and experiences.

00:00 Introduction and Roll Call
01:23 Living Unashamed: Personal Reflections
03:41 The Challenges of Honesty
09:22 Fear of Judgment and Recovery
11:26 Financial Transparency and Recovery
14:50 The Importance of Brotherhood
17:04 Listener Engagement and Conclusion

EP 194: Rick & Christine Dixon

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In this episode, we introduce Rick and Christine Dixon, owners of Renaissance Ranch, a mental health and substance addiction treatment center. The Dixons share their powerful story of overcoming addiction within their family, discussing their personal journeys, professional insights, and the critical role of family in the recovery process. They emphasize the importance of addressing shame, working the 12 steps, and fostering a supportive family environment. This episode offers hope, practical advice, and a testament to the miraculous transformations that can occur through recovery and faith.

To contact Christine, send her an email Cdixon@theeftclinic.com, Christine@renaissanceranch.com

Website: renaissanceranch.com

App with free classes and resources for individuals and families impacted by addiction: RR Family Program

Instagram and Facebook:

@renaissance_ranch (Men's Centers)

@renaissancerefuge (Women's Centers)

@renaissancefamilysupport (Family Program) 

00:00 Introduction to Unashamed Unafraid
01:57 Meet Rick and Christine Dixon
02:56 The Dixon Family's Journey Through Addiction
10:59 The Role of Shame in Addiction
13:41 The Importance of Family Recovery
17:54 Discovering the 12-Step Program
22:39 The Impact of Addiction on Family
22:52 The Journey to Recovery Begins
23:10 The Miracle of Change
25:44 Understanding Addiction as a Brain Disease
26:46 The Role of Family in Recovery
33:08 The Importance of Trust and Communication
36:11 Resources and Support for Families
44:32 The Power of Prayer and Hope
45:01 Conclusion and Call to Action

EP 193: Live Unashamed- How Can I Trust God?

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In this episode of 'Live Unashamed,' Sam introduces Mason, a close friend with a similar background, to discuss their shared experiences and the difficulties they've faced in connecting with a loving, non-transactional God. The conversation explores the challenge of reconciling a shame-based relationship with God, integrating genuine prayer, and finding peace in the midst of spiritual turmoil. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize the importance of understanding the true character of God and share personal experiences and strategies for deepening one's faith. The episode concludes with an invitation for listeners to contribute scriptures that reflect God's love and a special sermon by Graham Cook.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
01:28 Meet Mason: A Journey of Friendship and Similar Experiences
02:45 Struggles in Recovery and Faith
04:31 Deconstructing and Reconstructing Faith
05:58 Practical Steps to Reconnect with God
11:01 Overcoming the Try Harder Gospel
12:55 Connecting Through Scriptures
13:21 Rewiring Beliefs About God
14:20 Transformational Experiences
18:13 Rediscovering Prayer
20:22 Understanding God's True Character
25:07 Invitation to Share Scriptures
26:11 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement

EP 192: Anonymous Q&A

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In this engaging Q&A episode of Unashamed Unafraid, the hosts dive deep into various questions sent by listeners surrounding addiction, recovery, and spirituality. The discussion ranges from whether God withholds recovery to teach lessons, to healthy masturbation, and coping mechanisms. They also address difficult topics like coping with pornography addiction while having autism, and the realistic timelines for a successful recovery journey. Tune in for an insightful and honest conversation aimed at tackling tough questions and fostering deeper understanding.

00:00 Introduction and Q&A Revival
01:57 Deep Dive: God's Role in Addiction Recovery
04:36 Exploring the Nature of God
07:38 Philosophical Reflections on Suffering and Faith
10:18 Next Question: Masturbation Discussion
10:53 Healthy Masturbation: Perspectives and Debates
15:38 Personal Experiences and Recovery Insights
22:09 Exploring Underlying Emotions and Sexual Shame
23:07 Healthy Masturbation: Individualized Perspectives
23:18 Listener Engagement and Questions
24:12 Navigating Sexuality and Church Teachings
30:16 Understanding Autism and Addiction
34:47 Balancing Relationships and Recovery
39:12 Realistic Timelines for Recovery
45:20 Final Thoughts and Encouragement