It Starts With You (Me)
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by Pete, UU Writing Crew
A recurring theme with those whom I love of late is a conversation around brotherhood, sisterhood, connection, and support.
October marks three years since my first Warrior Heart Bootcamp. I well remember getting a rush from finally seeing what true connection with God and others felt and looked like.
A few months later I attended Advanced Bootcamp and came home again with the same feelings, including a renewed urgency and desire to have those same types of experiences more often and a lot closer to home.
I was sitting in a pew at Church and praying to God, half complaining, “why don’t we have that type of connection in my local congregation?” I listed off the people to blame and bemoaned that a close friend who had been a ringleader for connection had just moved out of state.
In my contemplative state the thought came very strongly into my mind, almost like a voice: “you have been to two camps and know how it looks and feels. You are the person you have been waiting for.”
Feelings of inadequacy, fear of rejection, a desire to keep the status quo all rushed over me and I felt overwhelmed. Again the powerful thought said to me, “just show people how much I love them and don’t worry about anything else. Just serve and love.”
It took a few false starts and a few more bootcamps to finally start having monthly Breakfast Burritos with Bros on a Saturday morning, as well as the occasional Crepes with Couples (the women were jealous and wanted to be invited too).
I took opportunities when I was asked to teach our Men’s group and around the fire at young men’s camps to ask people what makes their hearts come alive and how their heart is doing today (asking “how are you doing” usually dead ends with “fine”). We began inviting families over for dinner and organizing movie nights and tried to always say yes when we were invited to something.
It was uphill for many months, but then people started to soften. I took opportunities to go to lunch or breakfast with guys and get to know them. I would ask how I could battle for their hearts as I got to know them better. Admittedly, when things didn’t pick up as quickly as I thought they should, I still felt despair and wondered what the point was at times. But I have since seen the guys I’ve reached out to starting to reach out to others. It’s not at all about me but the love of Christ. It is independent of any one person’s efforts but it does need group participation to work.
I am constantly reminded that Christ invites me in. Always ready to pull me up and into something better. Crazy adventures have occurred and I’m now actively walking and mountain biking. I’ve been rappelling and tried a lot of new things, including axe throwing and going to music concerts.
“Adventure Awaits” is God’s slogan to me. I may wreck my bike, run into a cactus or a snake along the journey, but my heart and mind are alive, and I have been so blessed by waking up and doing something with others.
If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. - Ghandi (Longer version of “Be the Change …”)
I challenge you to look for ways to love and to surrender the self. God has so much to give, and you are one of His tools for giving. People are dying on the vine all around us and are waiting—just as we are—for someone to get the ball rolling.
After exhausting all of my excuses for it to NOT be me, I am living a life with a lot more connection, support, and love; and I’m working to let God be my navigator. I pray the same blessings for you! Get started somewhere and I promise the blessings will eventually come.