EP 132: The Lisa Show pt. 1

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*This is a reposted episode from The Lisa Show Podcast* byuradio.org/the-lisa-show

In this special episode, Steven joins Lisa for a conversation about recovery, outlining seven critical aspects of the healing process. They discuss the the most common pitfalls that keep people from healing and recovering, including the "try harder" fallacy, and outdated labels and language. Whether the issue at hand is pornography use, affairs and infidelity, or betrayal trauma, anyone can heal. Steven and Lisa discuss strategies for forming safe communities that foster honesty and recovery, especially in church environments.

EP 131: Live Unashamed- Recognizing Shame

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In this episode, Steve, James and Sam take a new approach discussing the topic of shame. They explore how shame thrives in secrecy and judgment, acting as a tool of negative forces to undermine self-worth. Through personal experiences, they reveal how recognizing and addressing shame—through therapy, spiritual retreats, and open communication—can heal and strengthen personal relationships, especially in marriage. The conversation underscores the necessity of discussing shame openly to identify its sources and mitigate its impacts.

EP 130: Recovery Resources & Masculinity with The Therapy Brothers

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In this episode, Steve and James are joined by the Therapy Brothers, Tyler and Brannon, who are both experienced therapists specializing in marriage, family therapy, and recovery from shame and trauma. They discuss their podcast 'Therapy Brothers' and the retreats they host aimed at helping men and women reclaim their identity and heal emotionally. The conversation explores topics such as healthy masculinity, the importance of experiential therapy, and tips for finding effective recovery resources. The Therapy Brothers emphasize the need for authenticity, courage, and community in the recovery process and share insight into how partners can support each other through trauma and healing journeys.


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EP 129: Live Unashamed- Sobriety vs. Recovery

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In this episode of Live Unashamed, hosts bring on their friend, Sam, to discuss the differences between sobriety and recovery. They explore the challenges and misconceptions surrounding these concepts, emphasizing that sobriety is about abstaining from undesirable behaviors, while recovery involves deeper healing. Personal stories highlight struggles with perfectionism, codependency, and self-sabotage. The conversation probes the reasons behind continued relapses despite significant recovery progress. The discussion aims to encourage listeners to reflect on their own journey and engage with the community for further support.

EP 128: Keeping it Real with Rhoda

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In this episode we invite Rhoda, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and seasoned podcaster to discuss critical aspects of couples therapy and relationships. Rhoda shares her extensive experience in the mental health field, emphasizing the importance of hard conversations, self-honesty, and long-term thinking for relationship recovery—especially in the context of addiction. She provides actionable advice for both partners struggling with difficult subjects like relapse disclosure and managing criticism. Rhoda also highlights the role of mutual empowerment and authentic communication in rebuilding trust and fostering a more substantial connection. Essential tips for recognizing and changing negative narratives in relationships are discussed, making this episode a valuable resource for couples navigating complex emotional landscapes.

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EP 127: The Therapy Brothers

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*This is a reposted episode from The Therapy Brothers Podcast* therapybros.com

In this special episode, Steve is interviewed by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, hosts of the Therapy Brothers Podcast. Steve shares his powerful and raw personal journey of addiction, recovery, and the reclamation of his own heart. He opens up about his struggles with addiction while in prominent church roles and the pivotal moments of grace that guided him towards healing. Steve emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, acceptance, and the support of a masculine brotherhood in overcoming personal demons and living a life aligned with one's true values. The discussion dives deep into the concept of 'godly masculinity' and how men can harness their inherent strengths in a positive and purposeful way.
Stay tuned for an upcoming episode where we dive deep and interview the Therapy Brothers!

EP 126: Q&A with Josh

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In this episode hosts Steven and James are joined by their friend Josh. They answer questions sent in by Josh and in doing so, they dive into a personal and candid discussion about recovery, touching on themes such as discipleship, shame, and the concept of being 'broken.' The conversation includes a deep dive into what it means to be 'recovered' versus 'in recovery,' the significance of self-care in a spiritual context, and the powerful idea that brokenness can lead to greater strength and beauty through divine grace.

EP 125: Gavin's Story

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In this episode, Steve and Chris embrace the power of vulnerability as they introduce Gavin, a guest who courageously shares his journey through addiction, shame, and recovery. The candid conversation goes into the deeper, poignant narrative of Gavin's experiences from teenage struggles with pornography and masturbation, through tumultuous high school years, and eventually, unexpected betrayal within his marriage. Through honest dialogue and unwavering support from the Unashamed & Unafraid community, Gavin discusses the trials of religious repentance processes, the emotional toll of addiction, and the crucial turning points leading to his ongoing recovery. This raw and inspiring episode underscores the significance of sharing one's story without stigma, connecting deeply with others, and finding hope in the most unexpected places. 

EP 124: The Heart of a Woman Retreat

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In this episode of Unashamed and Afraid, Steve welcomes Melanie, Michelle, and Sally to discuss their experiences with Heart of a Woman, a transformative Christian retreat designed to help women reconnect with God and themselves. Melanie shares the origins of Heart of a Woman, revealing how a call to create a dedicated retreat for women led to a decade-long journey of spiritual growth and female fellowship. Michelle and Sally, past attendees of the retreat, recount their varied experiences, emphasizing how the retreat provides a unique space for women to unplug from their daily lives, heal from trauma, and deepen their relationships with God through presentations, solo reflection time, and adventurous activities. Overall, Heart of a Woman aims to offer women a safe, supportive environment where they can explore their faith, build lasting connections, and return home with a renewed sense of spiritual and personal clarity.

*Go to TheHeartofaWoman.net and use code UNASHAMED24 to save $50 when you sign up! (Valid until September 10, 2024)

EP 123: Ian and Niccole's Story

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In this heartfelt episode, join hosts James and Steven as they welcome Ian and Niccole to the studio to share their profound journey of overcoming addiction and codependency through faith and mutual support. From their first meeting in college to their struggles with addiction and codependency, the couple provides an authentic narrative of their battles and breakthroughs. Key highlights include their initial honesty with each other about their respective struggles, the transformational moment when Niccole set healthy boundaries, and Ian's growing self-acceptance and self-love bolstered by his renewed faith. The episode emphasizes the importance of community, accountability, and a non-judgmental approach—focused on finding God's love and self-worth beyond destructive behaviors. Tune in for an inspiring discussion on overcoming shame, embracing vulnerability, and reclaiming hope.

EP 122: Jennifer's Story

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Jennifer suffered every type of abuse as a child. She was assaulted by her father, then by all the men that her mother brought home over the years. She came to feel that she was worthless, only there to make other people happy, and was filled with guilt. Years later, a therapist recommended she go get a massage to learn that not all touch was sexual. That backfired tremendously when her masseuse ended up raping her.

Jennifer was in a dark place, and as she watched her mother succumb to alzheimer's she was afflicted with suicidal thoughts. She finally asked God to give her a reason to live in any way that He could. The next morning, a sunrise miracle caused a deep and fundamental shift within her. That, combined with the reframing that she gained from an experiential, ultimately healed her soul and put her on the road to recovery. Jennifer’s story is a message of hope both to addicts and victims of abuse everywhere.

EP 121: Live Unashamed- Living with a Codependent (pt. 3)

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In the final episode of 'Codependency', the hosts discuss the intricacies of codependent relationships. The episode delves into the definition of codependency, its symptoms, and the difficulty individuals face in maintaining self-esteem, setting boundaries, and experiencing healthy intimacy. Through personal anecdotes and discussions, the team explores how codependency manifests and the challenges of overcoming it. They emphasize the importance of self-worth and boundaries in moving past codependent behaviors and introduce the concept that living in a codependent relationship is ultimately a choice. The conversation touches on various personal experiences and provides insights into the journey of recovery and transformation.

EP 120: Live Unashamed- How to Break My Codependency (pt. 2)

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Having already defined codependency, the team now addresses how to break out of its cycle. The first step is to recognize what our codependent behaviors even are. We cannot choose a different path if we don’t see the choices that are there. Furthermore, if we want to stop manipulating others into meeting our needs, we have to make peace with the fact that we really do have needs and that it is acceptable for us to own and address them. If we aren’t willing to give a full and honest voice to those needs, we are much more likely to get them met in covert, manipulative ways.

Another key takeaway is that we have to be willing to be honest, with no regard for the outcome. If we are not comfortable with sharing the truth that might make the other person mad at us and walk away from us, then we cannot live truthfully with that person. We have to be willing to suffer disconnection and be alone. We have to be willing to do the pain. “Enjoy that pain, there is beauty on the other side.”

EP 119: Live Unashamed- Am I Codependent? (pt. 1)

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The concept of codependency can be difficult to grasp and identifying it within ourselves or our relationships can prove challenging. In this episode, we break down the definition, assess its relevance, and offer strategies for recognizing and addressing it.

If you’ve grappled with resentment in a relationship or felt compelled to manage someone else’s emotions or beliefs, this discussion may provide hope, guidance, and even relief.

EP 118: Making Repair with Marc Pimsler

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We’re thrilled to welcome Marc Pimsler back for another episode! Marc, a lover of God, is a therapist, seeker, and a teacher with the heart of a student. He's in long-term recovery and he's here to talk about making repair.

Whether we refer to it as making repair, making amends, setting things right, or repairing relationships, there are ineffective or even harmful ways to approach it. Marc shows up with authenticity and passion to advocate for an effective approach. He begins by defining Addiction, Responsibility, and Accountability in a way that brings clarity to the discussion. We explore the reasons behind making repair, the work that must be done first, how to recognize unhealthy expectations, and strategies for navigating the process.

You can reach Marc via email at mvp@mvp-consulting.net or find him on Instagram @mpimsler and Facebook.

If this episode resonates with you, or if you know someone who needs a reminder of God’s open arms, please share the link to this episode with them. At Unashamed Unafraid, we are here to spread the words of hope and healing through Jesus Christ.

EP 117: Live Unashamed- Reaching Out, What Does it Mean?

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Alcoholics Anonymous' Dr. Bob's response to Bill Wilson after he complained that no one showed up for a meeting he spent the day organizing— "But you didn't drink today" — speaks volumes. In this episode, Steve, James, and Chris recognize the challenges of forming real connections and a supportive community while providing uplifting advice.

Tune in for insightful truths like these: Everyone fears rejection, and introverts face extra hurdles, but there are ways to overcome them. Each connection made is a victory against isolation, and reaching out pulls us out of our negotiations with our addiction.

EP 116: Christian and Kelle's Story

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Christian was born the middle of eight children and felt that he had to act out to get noticed. In his early adolescence he experimented with opiates, alcohol, a cigarette, and sex.

Kelle met Christian during their senior year of High School, the two started dating, and were quickly married after he returned home from his LDS mission. A few years and a motorcycle accident later, Christian went through a steady progression of painkillers, alcohol, gambling, and adultery. He became unable to hold down a job and disappeared for long stretches of time, Kelle and their four children unsure of when or if he would show up next. 

Christian and Kelle’s story is a testament to the fact that there is always a way back, that no soul is over and done, at least not so long as we are willing to open ourselves even a little to the light that is cracking its way into our hearts.

EP 115: Live Unashamed- Navigating the Influence of Digital Media

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Just as we establish clear boundaries in our relationships with other people, we must also set boundaries in our relationship with digital media, especially when we consider that media use is the "most undiagnosed addiction behavior by a mile." It consumes massive chunks of our time on its own, and can lure the recovering porn addict back into full-blown relapse.

Hear the Unashamed Unafraid team speak to all of these points, as well as how parents play a crucial role in modeling healthy media habits for their children, how women especially are hurt by social media's brutal comparison game, and how being constantly plugged in blocks us from "finding God in silence."

EP 114: Equine Therapy with Julie Forbes

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Julie Forbes is a healer of souls. In this episode, we discuss her practice of helping people heal through spiritual connection with and in the presence of horses - Equine Assisted Learning. She has worked professionally in this field for over a decade in the St. George, Utah area.

Julie shares the success she has witnessed in her work with troubled teens and addicts, asserting that no matter what we believe about ourselves, we can find a way to face our 'Soul Hurt,' release our false beliefs, and emerge renewed and healed. 

Join us as Julie describes how she became involved with Equine Assisted Learning, what the experience entails, and how God manifests through it. We believe you'll find her unique perspective on healing, the definition of addiction, and the promise of lasting recovery refreshing. 

You can contact Julie by email, julie@julieforbes.net, her website Dragonfly Soul, Facebook, and Instagram.

EP 113: Live Unashamed- Recovering vs. Recovered

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"I absolutely know with every fiber of my being that [God] loves me for who I am."

Recovery is not a one-size-fits-all process. Each person may define their recovery journey in terms of what resonates with them personally. Recovery is as much about self-awareness and growth as it is about overcoming addiction and the journey from “recovering” to “recovered” lies in our faith in God and His Son Jesus Christ that healing is not only possible for others, but we each too are worthy to receive it and can start living a fulfilling life unburdened by addiction.