Where Do I Start?

When starting the battle of recovery and being clean you may wonder where to start. At UnashamedUnafraid we have a lot of different resources. Most people who are clean have some things in common, such as the points below.  

First Things First

you need to stop your addiction. When you clean your mind it becomes clearer and easier to allow God to be a bigger part of your life. I know I wondered why I had to stop or if somehow God could make an exception for me. I don’t think anyone starting the battle has a clear vision of why they need to stop, or how their life will be better.

That’s where faith and hope come in, “for what a man seeth, why doth he yet hope for? But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it”. I promise you that your life will be better without your addiction. The best advice I can give to someone starting out is to identify times, emotions and situations where you give into temptation and then commit to avoiding those situations. Also, it’s important that you reach out for help, find at least one supportive person that you can be honest with, even more is better. You cannot do it alone. 


After a period of being clean, you’ll become stable enough to where you can deal with unresolved painful experiences or trauma. If you start digging into trauma at the beginning, you may make your addiction worse. Trauma seems to surface on its own when God knows you’re ready to deal with it. You’ll need to find ways to process your painful experiences. Many men work this out in groups or by reading books, to fully experience the emotion of what happened to them earlier. 


Your life will gradually get better as you start to overcome your addiction. You’ll experience ups and downs and sometimes you may even feel like your life has gotten worse. Like the children of Israel after the exodus from Egypt. But I promise you that being clean is better than being a slave to your addiction, no matter what it seems like in the moment. This is when you’ll truly experience peace, joy and stability in your life that was absent during your time of addiction. Becoming clean involves changing your lifestyle permanently, not just stopping a habit. You’ll start to become who God wants you to be and you’ll live for a purpose outside of yourself.